A2Z2016 – Truth and Time

It’s interesting how over TIME people bend the TRUTH.

This morning I received a phone call from my mother that turned into quite unpleasant dialog.  

She remembers a situation one way and I have a completely different recollection.

I love my mother; however, I do not always get along with her.  

Admittedly, it has been tough being her only child; because I have no one to share her with (smile).

I know…

“Appreciate your mother!”

“You will miss her when she is gone.”

“You only have one mother.”

“Be patient.”

“She’s not happy.”

“She’s lonely.”

“It’s tough getting older.”

“Her mother wasn’t there for her.”

“How can she show love when she did not receive it.”

I get it.  However, I am not calling her again for a long time!

My inner spirit does not do well in the land of NEGATIVITY!

Besides – I am a Mother too! How else do I stop the cycle?  Huh?!  Any suggestions?  Seriously…?

Author: Davina "Dee" Lyons

Davina Lyons is a Speaker, Educator, and Life Transformation Strategist who has a heart to serve women who lack the plan or confidence to WALK in their PURPOSE.

13 thoughts on “A2Z2016 – Truth and Time

  1. My mother lives about 300 yards from me – and I haven’t spoken to her in years. I know she was horribly abused as a child; she passed a milder version of that on to me.

    And I was passing a distilled version on to my own children – until I realized I had to make a choice.

    I chose being my children’s mother over being my mother’s daughter. I needed to make that choice, when my children were 4 and 7, to break the cycle I was repeating.

    Happy to say that, with them now nearly 12 and 15, our lives are peaceful and joyful. My children are thriving; what they may pass on to any children they might have will be a very different thing than that which was passed on to me. I couldn’t have done it while remaining in contact with my mother.

    The added benefit is that I’ve had so much time and energy for the rest of life since I released that toxic connection.

    People can give all manner of advice, but being someone’s offspring doesn’t mean you’re required to offer yourself up for further unkindnesses. Only you know how much you suffer, and how much is OK for you to have her in your life. There will be those who try to make you feel guilty (I DO have siblings; they were also damaged, and that can be another level of poison, if I let it be), but you don’t deserve to be manipulated into exposing yourself to things that wound your soul.

    May you find the place of peace that works for you. I’m sending you the love of a mother, and of a fellow daughter who understands. ❤

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    1. I am just getting home and seeing your response.

      You are absolutely on point with my situation. This is why I have come to appreciate blogging. There are some tremendous people out there like yourself who have the courage to share in an effort to strengthen someone else.

      Thank you so much for sharing. It was a confirmation.

      Peace and blessings to you and your family,
      Davina💝

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      1. I figure that I can make something better come from the darker parts of my life. Every person who finds healing makes the world that much sweeter.

        Sweeter is better.

        I’m happy I could be a voice in the service of peace and rationality. ❤

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    1. I am glad that something positive has come from my post.

      I do love my mother and have tried for many years to get along with her. I have swallowed my pride, written letters, sent cards, and begged to be understood and loved. At the age of 51, I am still treated like I am 17 years old by my mother. She can not help it.

      I feel so much sorrow for her because she has never had a happy life. So many regrets as her life is slipping away.

      Yes, if you have a good relationship with your mother, it is essential that you treasure and maintain it.

      At this point, I am exasperated. This has been a great deal of the pain in my pain, passion, and purpose journey.

      Peace and blessings💝,
      Davina

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