ACEs – Fear of physically being hurt…

ACEs Question #1

Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Swear at you, insult you, put you down, or humiliate you? or Act in a way that made you afraid that you might be physically hurt?

My initial thoughts when reading this question for the first time were:

  • that’s just how my generation was raised…
  • “spare the rod, spoil the child”…
  • Momma wasn’t raised by her parents…
  • She didn’t receive love as a child either…

My mother and first step-father believed in corporal punishment.  It was nothing unusual to be whipped (not spanked) with a belt until I couldn’t sit or stand.

Now, many people still debate about whether or not it is necessary to use the rod in rearing a child.  I can tell you that it is sheer barbarism to a person who raised in that extreme manner.  My mother would tell you that she is the reason I turned out “so good” – until I upset her by not complying with her opinion or requests.

Unforgettable Memory

My stepfather was so angry at me for doing something.  I no longer remember what it was, but I do remember the buckle end of the belt hitting the back of my right hand. Blood squirted everywhere.  I ran under the kitchen table. Terrified and bleeding.  I was in the fourth grade (based on where we lived at the time).

It’s unforgettable because of the scar on the back of my hand.  A lifetime memory of a traumatic experience.

My answer to question #1 is YES.

 

Inspiration

I had to re-post this, because it is TRUTH and INSPIRING!  I also LOVE the picture.

Mind is but a receptacle fill it with anger, hate jealousy, lasciviousness and suffering is sure to follow all the days of your life. Yet he who has a pure mind filled with loving thoughts and who acts accordingly has serenity and joy unto the end of all time. Hatred does not still hatred peace […]

Reposted via Filling the Mind — Source of Inspiration

Daily Musing #3 – Decisions End Confusion 

If you are struggling with making a decision, think about worse case scenario.  

  • Can you live with it?  
  • What could potentially happen next?
  • Will your decision impact others?
  • If so, in what way?
  • How will your decision impact you?
  • In a month, 6 months, a year, 5 years…will it matter?

Decisions are very important! They help direct your path in life.  Don’t delay too long and don’t be too hasty – trust your Spirit and make a decision!

Focus on Consistency #7 – My Health

A quick health accountability check!

I’m still THRIVING! I’ve been consistent!

It’s been 42 days (6 weeks) on the Thrive Experience.  It’s my key to optimum health – I feel incredible!

  • More energy by day than I have had in years; and the best sleep at night.  I actually can’t remember feeling as good physically as  I do now.
  • My mental clarity is definitely on point.  I am not getting confused or overwhelmed with all that I have on my plate.  Lesson planning for my students, promoting the Thrive Experience, growing my life coaching practice, and managing my household as a wife and mother.
  • Finally, the health issues I have had in the past seem to be going away.  I am not making any medical claims; just sharing my truth.  The inflammation and swelling that I have experienced for over 20 years- the same that doctors and medicine could not resolve, is no longer a problem for me.  The arthritis in my fingers is also gone!

I don’t know how it’s working or which ingredient is doing it; but I know how great I feel from the time I wake up until I go to bed!

The total Thrive Experience is 8 weeks… no doubt I will feel even better and be more productive two weeks from now.

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Peace and blessings!

Passion as Purpose

Who doesn’t desire “…a life that is rich, fulfilling, and true to who we are…?” I had to share this awesome post!

EssenCentral

“Only passions, great passions, can elevate the soul to great things.”

– Denis Diderot

What isyour purpose?”

Crickets.

I find that many people tend to get totally silent when they are confronted with this question.

It makes sense. It’s pretty bigquestion after all.

Most of us tend to find ourselves in jobs that don’t inspire us nor make us happy. We accept much less than our dreams. Before we know it, we’re so far down a path that doesn’t align nor reflect with who we are or what we had originally desired for our lives. And the reason for this is because typically we take what we can get to get by in this crazy world. We ignore passion and purpose in lieu of money and security. Not that the latter aren’t important and necessary, but the key thing to remember is that for most of us, we…

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Got Your ACE Score?

Feelings buried alive continue to echo from the grave. 

I really dislike the statement, “…everybody has a story.”  I feel it is dismissive.  When people begin to share their childhood stories, typically there are reasons.  Perhaps they need to express something that is deeply troubling.  Yet, many people have come to believe it is better to repress those memories and “get on” with life.  My other least favorite saying is, “…time heals all wounds.”  Not true!  Especially if infection is presented and not properly treated!  Truth is – it isn’t that simple.  

Feelings buried alive continue to echo from the grave.  To truly heal our minds, bodies, and spirits, we must identify the root of our pain and give it a proper burial by silencing it for good.  In my post, Daily Musings #2 – Intro to ACEs, I allude to my own pain of the past.  My adolescent years were wrought with confusion and pain as I sought to deal with so many conflicts at an early age.

I was introduced to ACEs during a professional development program hosted by the Gila River Indian Community for teachers of students on the Reservation.  The topic was teaching with trauma sensitivity.

That day, I completed the ACEs Questionnaire (same as the one below).  My trauma score was nine (9).  As I attempted to mask my tears, I realized my mission.

Since becoming a teacher, I have naturally empathized with my students.  ACEs put it all in proper perspective – finally, I knew my WHY.  

I understood why:

  • my concern for my students runs deeper than academics
  • I relate to them at a deeper level that seems inexplicable
  • nothing else matters to me more than seeing others recover from the pain of their past
  • I relate to adults who appear to have many issues in a different more tolerable light
  • I can forgive my own past poor decisions and missed opportunities with seemingly unimaginable resiliency
  • years ago, the P3 Journey™ (Pain ~ Passion ~ Purpose) became my mission to share, which leads us to NOW!

STEP ONE – Determining Your ACEs Score

Complete this questionnaire from the perspective of prior to your 18th birthday:

  1. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Swear at you, insult you, put you down, or humiliate you? or Act in a way that made you afraid that you might be physically hurt?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  2. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Push, grab, slap, or throw something at you? or Ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  3. Did an adult or person at least 5 years older than you ever… Touch or fondle you or have you touch their body in a sexual way? or Attempt or actually have oral, anal, or vaginal intercourse with you?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  4. Did you often or very often feel that … No one in your family loved you or thought you were important or special? or Your family didn’t look out for each other, feel close to each other, or support each other?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  5. Did you often or very often feel that … You didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, and had no one to protect you? or Your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if you needed it?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  6. Were your parents ever separated or divorced?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  7. Was your mother or stepmother:
    Often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had something thrown at her? or Sometimes, often, or very often kicked, bitten, hit with a fist, or hit with something hard? or Ever repeatedly hit over at least a few minutes or threatened with a gun or knife?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  8. Did you live with anyone who was a problem drinker or alcoholic, or who used street drugs?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  9. Was a household member depressed or mentally ill, or did a household member attempt suicide?                        No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  10. Did a household member go to prison?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __

Now add up your “Yes” answers: _ This is your ACE Score

Source: Got Your ACE Score?

I welcome thoughts and feelings – please share in comments!

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Thrive

I had to share this!

Create rather than criticize. Make music rather than noise. Choose abundance over scarcity. Cast hope, joy, awe and light. Each moment, of each day. And by all means, thrive.

Cast Light

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” – Maya Angelou

Where we invest and exert our attention, efforts, thoughts, heart, acts and words make up our life. We define what our life is and what it becomes, not the government, our workplace, other people, our circumstances. What we choose to do, see and be each day is what we have control of. The rest will be what it is – noise and distraction. When we focus all that we are and do into what’s good and true, we will have spent our very short time on this earth well.

Be kind, grateful, considerate and listen, really listen – to others and that still small voice that calls us to become our best selves. Each of us has a tremendous capacity and…

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Daily Musings #2 – Intro to ACEs

 

For many people, privacy is super important.  It is their way of protecting themselves for those who would take advantage of them.  For me, I am extremely transparent.  I allow most people to know about my life experiences with the intention of somehow helping others to avoid or attract situations in their best interest.

I believe you can learn from the experience of others and save yourself the time and energy of going through it.

As a Middle School teacher, I deal with adolescents at a very critical stage in their lives.  Their bodies are changing and growing.  Their brains are impacted a great deal by what they are experiencing.  In an effort to be the most effective teacher I can be, I have to be sensitive to the whole student – not just the academics.


For many students, that means me being trauma sensitive.  Everyday is a struggle for them and it is necessary and critical for the adults in their lives to show kindness and genuine consideration for what these young people are going through on their journey to adulthood.  The students with the most difficult behaviors often need the most care and concern.  Their behavior is a form of communication.

I remember being at their ages.  Especially how I felt at times about the adults in my life. While some of those memories were positive, many were painful.  The empathy I have for my students is rooted in my past pain.  It has led me on a quest to figure out how best to serve them as a positive role model.  Perhaps subconsciously help the young girl I once was.

This post is the first of many to come about adverse childhood experiences (ACEs).  There are many articles and books on this topic that contain detailed research based clinical definitions.  The article, ACEs Science 101 is a good source which will provide links to completely broaden your knowledge of the topic.

Each day, I will share a bit more about the topic of ACEs.  It has everything to do with my P3 Journey™ and WHY I am choosing to inspire others to #thrive.

 

 

My Thrive Experience

As of today, it has been six weeks since I began my Thrive Experience™!

Over the years, I have NOT been successful with following any nutrient regimen.  For one reason, I am typically not consistent with taking pills of any type.  Usually, I forget to take something as prescribed thirty minutes before meals or an hour after a meal throughout the day.

Six weeks ago, I woke up for the first time to take two vitamins.  Twenty minutes later, I drank a strawberry shake and slapped a patch on my arm. Off to work I went without concern about nutrition for the remainder of the day.  That was DAY ONE of The Thrive Experience™.

On the third day of this routine, I felt my body come alive literally!  Everyone has a different result or time frame before they feel it.  Some people, it’s day one and others it could be day 9.  I am not sure how it works (nor am I making any medical claims) but it truly worked for me.  I have not missed a day since!

Back Story

If you have read the bible and know the story about the woman with the issue of blood, then you would totally relate to what I experienced for many years.  Jesus did not physically come to my town so I could touch the hem of his garment, but I was finally blessed to be able to have a much needed surgery after suffering years of severe anemia.  This resulted in muscle weakness, thin hair, weak fingernails, and periodic random pain throughout my body.

I finally decided to take the surgical route when I started having dizzy spells while driving.  Although I had a fear of surgery, the fibroid tumors in my uterus were increasing rapidly in size and I had to deal with it.

The surgery stopped the issue of blood, but my body had a tough time recovering from the abuse of severe anemia for so many years.  The surgery was in December of 2012.  It was not until six weeks ago that I realized just how much my body lacked nutritionally.

Today

My energy is at an all time high.  No more energy drinks or Starbucks™ coffee to get to the end of my day. I have amazing stamina and more importantly a reignited desire to conquer all of my goals.  My mind, body, and spirit are finally aligning.  My husband, son, and the students in my classroom have all acknowledged the increase in my energy level and overall positive mood.  Most importantly – I feel happier and healthier.

Disclaimer

I had no intention of promoting or selling any lotions or potions in life, but I realized right away that this was different.  This brand is designed to truly benefit your health which ultimately makes a difference overall in your lifestyle.  In all good consciousness, I have to share it!

The Future

Promoting the Thrive Experience by Le-Vel Brands is only a part of what I have to offer.  My next level is the to be able to pay it forward by coaching and inspiring others to not only THRIVE nutritionally, but in all areas of their lives.

For more information on the Thrive 1-2-3 Experience, visit my website at – www.davinalyons.Le-vel.com

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