ACEs – The Bright Side

ACEs

So, I have taken the ACE Survey and assessed the answers to my 10 questions – now what?

The survey was the first step toward healing in my P3 Journey, because it helped me identify the experiences that took me off course at a critical stage in my life (adolescence).  After completing the survey, I realized that much of what happened to me was at a very early age (with the exception of the molestation).  I also realized that there were many incidences that I no longer recall the specific details.  Yet, at times, I am triggered and act out accordingly.

The Bright Side – RESILIENCE

According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, resilience is defined as: an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.  Like ACEs, there is a survey (questionnaire) based on resilience research developed by a group of researchers, therapists, pediatricians, and physicians.

RESILIENCE QUESTIONNAIRE

Please circle the most accurate answer under each statement:

1.  I believe that my mother loved me when I was little.

Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True

2.  I believe that my father loved me when I was little.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True
3.  When I was little, other people helped my mother and father take care of me and they seemed to love me.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True
4.   I’ve heard that when I was an infant someone in my family enjoyed playing with me, and I enjoyed it, too.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True
5.  When I was a child, there were relatives in my family who made me feel better if I was sad or worried.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True
6.   When I was a child, neighbors or my friends’ parents seemed to like me.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True
7.  When I was a child, teachers, coaches, youth leaders or ministers were there to help me.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True
8.  Someone in my family cared about how I was doing in school.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True
9.  My family, neighbors and friends talked often about making our lives better.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True
10.  We had rules in our house and were expected to keep them.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True
11. When I felt really bad, I could almost always find someone I trusted to talk to.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True
12.  As a youth, people noticed that I was capable and could get things done.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True
13.  I was independent and a go-getter.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True
14.  I believed that life is what you make it.
Definitely true         Probably true         Not sure         Probably Not True        Definitely Not True

 

How many of these 14 protective factors did I have as a child and youth? (How many of the 14 were circled “Definitely True” or “Probably True”?)   _______
Of these circled, how many are still true for me? _______

 

My Score

A real aha moment for me is when I completed this survey.  My score is 0.  It makes sense!  I have always been successful with recovering in times of difficult situations and circumstances.  I am excellent at adapting to change.  In fact, I embrace it.  In my corporate career, I was known as a “change agent”.

That is the bright side of my story.  It is also what has made my life journey so interesting.  More about this later…meanwhile…be sure to complete the resilience questionnaire and reflect on your score.  This is a huge part of your journey towards healing mind, body, and spirit.

 

 

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