Step 4 – Forgiving Everyone Involved
Part I – Forgiving Mother
I woke up early this morning with this step in mind. Before I could actually write this post, I had to think about who I still needed to forgive. If I am operating in my TRUTH, then I have to walk it out myself before inspiring someone else to do it.
My truth is – I had not spoken to my mother since a week after my Aunt Joyce passed away. When I returned from North Carolina, I was disappointed in my mother for a number of reasons. So, I decided to stop calling her sometime around the end of May. Since my childhood, our relationship has been on and off. If you have read my ACEs posts then you know why.
So early this morning, I picked up the phone and called my mother (wasn’t even sure what I was going to say). There was no answer. I left a message. By noon, I received a callback.
My mother’s tone was as if nothing had ever happened between us. In fact, it was like no time had elapsed since the last conversation. Suddenly, my original reason for being upset became real foggy. It was simply mom on the phone and we were back to the way it use to be on the good days while getting along.
During the conversation, I wanted to dive into the reason for my lack of contact, get her to understand, then say, ” Mom, I forgive you.”
It didn’t go that way…
Mom talked for 3 hours and 44 minutes…I listened and responded when I had an opportunity. For the first time in my adult life, I realized that my mother is no different than the women in the world I seek to help. She was traumatized as a child and never recovered. Now, in her 70’s she is still wounded.
The least I can do is love and forgive her…