After you have faced the problem, accepted responsibility, determined you really want healing in the situation, forgiven the offender and yourself – now what?
The final step to this process is seeking Divine wisdom. This seals the deal for me. Simply stated, I pray about it. Then I listen for a response. The essential question is: How do I move forward?
In the situation with my mother, I took the first step, she took the next step. We communicated and all seems to be well. For me, I needed to know how to proceed and not get hurt again (by her words or deeds). If I have sincerely forgiven her and myself – the slate is wiped clean. This means there is no negative emotion behind anything related to her.
I prayed about my next steps with my mother yesterday after our long conversation. The answer I received in my Spirit was – LOVE HER!
So, I know how important it is to communicate with her daily. She is lonely and loves to share her views about the news, politics, the past, etc. I call her on the way to work early in the morning and she is ready to talk.
There are two ways to look at this: I could be nice to her while anticipating there will be another offense; or, I could show her I genuinely care by staying in constant contact to help cure her loneliness. This means not taking what she says or does personally – but considering who she is and what she has been through to get her to this point in life. The first way shows a lack of faith and the second way says I am intentional about both mine and my mother’s happiness.
I choose the latter…