Essential Question: What do I value most?
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines self-awareness as: an awareness of ones own personality or individuality.
MyTruth365 is intended to model the process of finding, using, and elevating your authentic voice. Personal development is definitely a process. Whether you are doing it on your own or with the assistance of a Life Coach; there is much work to be done to take yourself to the next level.
Psychologists Shelley Duval and Robert Wicklund developed the theory of self-awareness in 1972. According to Duval and Wicklund, “…when we focus our attention on ourselves, we evaluate and compare our current behavior to our internal standards and values.”
Before we can begin any positive transformation in our lives, we must have a baseline assessment of who we are today; not just surface conscious knowledge but at the sub-conscious level. What drives you? What is most important to you? What is your TRUTH? Determining your personal core values is the first step in this important process.
For some, this is relatively an elementary concept, but for others, it is a huge ‘aha’ moment. Personally, it was the latter for me. I never thought about it on a personal level. Sure, I have worked for major corporations and sat through numerous strategic planning sessions to determine the organization’s core values, but not my own.
During the last TRIBE Authentic Woman Workshop of 2018 (December 16th) we completed a Core Values Survey. There are many ways to begin the process of determining your core values and countless lists online to assist you in the brainstorming process. There are lists of as many as 500 suggested core values. Some people prefer to use a list to get started and others answer a series of questions and allow the answers to suggest their values. In my opinion, it doesn’t matter which method you use.
I have used both methods and narrowed it down to the following:
- Peace – it is a requirement that I live with inner harmony on a daily basis.
- Freedom – living independently with the ability to make choices freely is a high value for me.
- Forgiveness – I can not hold a grudge or be upset with someone for any length of time. It disturbs my peace.
- Helpfulness – I work tirelessly for the welfare of others who I perceive as not strong enough to do it for themselves.
- Courage – I have no fear of retribution or anything when it comes to standing for what I believe in.
I know these values are legitimate because I can see patterns dating back to my childhood for each of them. This list of five is not all that I value, but these are definite drivers in my life. As you do the work to determine what you value most, there will be some that are a given without question; such as family, love, and friendship. Those are what I was referring to earlier as “surface.”
The values you need to identify are at the subconscious level that causes you to make a major decision or not. Sometimes, a value is born from a traumatic situation. Also, values do change over time, so it is not a static list. In other words, you must continuously and consistently be self-aware.
I challenge you to begin the process of determining your personal core values. If you are a local Arizona resident and would like to attend the monthly TRIBE Authentic Woman Workshop (every 3rd Sunday in Mesa, AZ), or need personal coaching through the process, email me at Lyons.Thrive@gmail.com
Duval, S., & Wicklund, R. A. (1972). A theory of objective self awareness. Oxford, England: Academic Press.