Victimhood is defined as ‘a state of being a victim’.Dictionary.com
Disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional, nor am I diagnosing anyone with mental illness. This post is not intended to minimize the seriousness of mental illness. It is about highlighting the opportunity for personal growth and development for someone with capable mental capacity.
For many years I lived in a mental space I now refer to as the Victim Hood. In other words, I suffered from having a victim mentality. I was fixated on my childhood and young adult past life trauma. I used it as a reason to stay stuck and not achieve what I was fully capable of.
In the victim ‘hood, people are selfish. It’s all about them! They need your time and attention. They are inconsolable because no matter what advice you give, they have a reason for being stuck in their situation. Their neediness is difficult to satisfy and most often they have a negative outlook on life.
Yes, we all have a story! Good or bad, our story has helped to shape who we are. There is a difference between sharing your story to help others trust that you relate to them and being stuck in your story (looping like in a nightmare) and constantly seeking attention to feel better.
My Truth is that once I finally realized the difference, I was free to move away from that ‘hood. By reframing my story, I could move forward and genuinely be supportive of others. I could share parts of my story as needed to relate to someone else seeking to escape the victim ‘hood.
Knowing what I know now, I am able to see the patterns that led me to this point in life. I live in a different mental ‘hood now, but I can certainly remember the old address (metaphorically speaking). No matter what your state of mind is, it is important to put more emphasis on the positive experiences you are having real-time, rather than replaying old ‘hood tapes.
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