6 Steps to Emotional Healing

If you want to know the true health of the tree, examine the roots.


~Davina Lyons


In my last blog post, I mentioned how simple hurts can be prayed about and healing quickly occurs by a shift in the mindset, but sometimes there are more complex hurts that require ACTION to resolve.

Here are 6 steps that I coach my clients through in order to heal emotionally.

  1. Face the problem
  2. Accept your responsibility
  3. Ask yourself if you really want to be healed
  4. Forgive everyone involved
  5. Forgive yourself
  6. Ask God for revelation

We will explore each of these points more in-depth in the subsequent blog posts.  Like being clear on your spirituality, healing emotionally is also essential and foundational on your Journey to Purpose™.


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When children are little and they get a scrape or bruise while playing, they will often come to mommy or daddy for help to make it better.


“…kiss the boo-boo and make it better, please.”

Somehow, that simple act from a loving parent actually made it better.  I’m sure it was the love shown that started the healing process first in the heart which translated to the mind and the physical complied.

Well, as adults, how do we get our boo-boos kissed?

I ask God in prayer, receive it in my heart and instantly my mind is in a better state…healing starts to occur.

No, it isn’t always that simple.  Some people have it much more difficult.  Sometimes the hurt is so deep and complicated – not a simple boo-boo at all!

What if the hurt is woven with a traumatic childhood experience, poor environment, detached parents, poor teachers, disingenuous relationships and so on?  It takes time and space on the continuum of life to heal.

It takes ACTION on your part (more than just asking God in prayer).  It’s a process.

To be continued…


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My Truth


I always desire to do and be better.

I am reminded of so many past situations.  There were times when I was yearning to be understood – yet couldn’t find the right words.  Times when I made decisions to benefit someone else only to come up short myself as a result.  Moments I just could not get right.  My mind, body, and spirit were out of alignment.

My Heart

My relationship with family, friends, bosses, co-workers, employees and my spouse were all influenced by the desire to please. No one really knew what I felt deeply because I couldn’t properly articulate it.  My heartfelt way of being (My TRUTH) was difficult to translate.

God Knows

So I remained unhappy…I realize now that I was incapable of defining MY TRUTH because it wasn’t the right time yet.  I also realize that it was perfectly fine because God had me covered.  My heart’s desires were not lost, just delayed while I was being prepared for something greater.


Image: Scripture Psalm 139:23

Love God?

Hold on…please read:

There may be some who skip this post because the title doesn’t line up with their belief system – or lack of one.  It’s risky for me to even bring this subject up in a blog post because we all know that “religion and politics” are taboo subjects when you want to keep the peace while communicating.

God (when defined as a religious term) is a touchy subject for many legitimate reasons. I am aware of how people feel. Some people have damaged emotions as a result of the practice of religion.

Currently, it’s a really touchy subject when you consider how it’s being used to influence politics in this country.

I have personally dealt with this aspect of my truth as well. In order to move forward on the continuum of life, I had to redefine God within the terms I could relate. This meant prayer, meditation (to hear God) and eliminating man-made dogma.  I became much more open to receiving pure love and light.

For me, God is the Spirit within me and everything around me. I see goodness (God) in everything.

Sound unrealistic?

Well, my mindset is to search for God as an expression of love in all situations whenever possible. Truthfully, it’s not always my first reaction, but I most often circle back to it. This is how I overcome and persevere.  Even in situations, I feel I’ve been wronged.  This is a part of My TRUTH!

Your TRUTH is sacred to you…I pass no judgment; I do not have that right.  I do have the right to LOVE you right where you are.

God does the transforming – I simply am an instrument if granted the opportunity to be a part of your journey.  I share this because it’s a starting point in the journey to purpose. Your spiritual system will largely determine how you WALK out this journey. It can not be ignored.

Loving God is loving myself and all of the creation to the best of my ability. It’s essential to Step 1 – HEALING.

To be continued…


Image: Scripture Romans 8:28


I just saw this tweet (@abundancemind11) that stated, “Don’t think outside the box.  Think like there is no box.”

Wow! That is mind blowing for me at this very moment.

Why, because I hate mentioning that box.  For a moment, it takes your attention off of your project/goal.  The moment you are concerned with whether or not you are IN or OUT of the BOX, you lose effectiveness.

Damn THE BOX!  Let’s GO!


I woke up this morning feeling enormous gratitude.  It wasn’t for the obvious “good” people and things that have touched my life.  Of course, I’m very grateful for that.

Today, I’ve decided to be grateful for the naysayers and disappointments in my life. 

 I’m strengthened and a lot more capable today than I was yesterday because of it.  My faith assures me that nothing is wasted that happens in our lives.

The KEY is LOVE!


In high school I wanted to be a politician or a lawyer because I sought justice for all people.

As I grew older and began my life journey, I saw those roles differently – in a negative way.  I then decided I wanted to help people be strong internally so they could use their voices and defend themselves.  I wanted to motivate people.

Meanwhile, I needed someone to help me stay on track.  I had so many personal pain points that my dreams of helping others started to dry up like a raisin in the sun as Langston Hughes mentions in his poem.

Langston Hughes’ “Harlem – A Dream Deferred”

What happens to a dream deferred?

Does it dry up

like a raisin in the sun?

Or fester like a sore—

And then run?

Does it stink like rotten meat?

Or crust and sugar over—

like a syrupy sweet?

Maybe it just sags

like a heavy load.

Or does it explode?

Today,  I realize my dream did not explode. It was just put on hold.  

What about you?


It just occurred to me that I have a different relationship with FEAR!  I no longer believe it!  

I’m not referring to the save my life fight or flight type fear.  I am referencing the depressive worrying type FEAR.

When it tries to sneak up on me – I no longer get rattled.  I quickly put things in proper perspective – assess the worse case scenario – determine the liability – prepare to deal with it – then press forward.