What would you do if you had no fear?

Body, Mind, Motivation, Resilience, Spirit, Thriving

I am sharing this post because I personally know it to be true. Everything I have feared from a distance in the past began to change for me when I got up close and personal.

My biggest fear was of snakes. When I had to save one from being tortured by my students one day, that all changed. I saw it as a living creature that needed my help; irregardless of my fear.

This was a liberating experience.

Thriving Under Pressure

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Run toward not away from the things that scare you the most. You’ll be surprised at how small they appear close up.

Related Post: Stand your sacred ground.

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What to do, What to do!

Body, Mind, Motivation, Resilience, Spirit, Thriving

I love what Evie is passionate about! I had to share her post because there is someone out there at her age and stage in life that can relate.

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So…. I’m single. And I’m 29. Most people where in the state I live in would think that at this rate I might not ever get married. I honestly gave that choice up when I was 24. Don’t get me wrong, I want to get married and have children but it’s not in my timing. I started my first year of college in 2011 and I broke up with my boyfriend. I knew that my timeline (every woman has a time line, or most) was way off by 4 years at that point. The guys that I have chosen where not the best at all. At this point in my life I took a hard look at myself and realized that either I go into a complete circle with my life and what my idea of a good man and marriage will keep getting distorted or I take some time…

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Sharing Self-Love

Body, Mind, Motivation, Resilience, Spirit, Thriving

When you think about yourself, what comes to mind? Go ahead, close your eyes and just think about YOU, yourself, as a person in the world.. Ok, now was it positive or negative thoughts? If it was a positive thought, then I’m sure you always look for your good qualities and you’re an overall positive person no […]

via Self-Love: Why It’s Necessary to Instill in Our Young Girls — With Love, YC

Got Your ACE Score?

ACEs, Mind, Motivation, Resilience, Spirit

Feelings buried alive continue to echo from the grave. 

I really dislike the statement, “…everybody has a story.”  I feel it is dismissive.  When people begin to share their childhood stories, typically there are reasons.  Perhaps they need to express something that is deeply troubling.  Yet, many people have come to believe it is better to repress those memories and “get on” with life.  My other least favorite saying is, “…time heals all wounds.”  Not true!  Especially if infection is presented and not properly treated!  Truth is – it isn’t that simple.  

Feelings buried alive continue to echo from the grave.  To truly heal our minds, bodies, and spirits, we must identify the root of our pain and give it a proper burial by silencing it for good.  In my post, Daily Musings #2 – Intro to ACEs, I allude to my own pain of the past.  My adolescent years were wrought with confusion and pain as I sought to deal with so many conflicts at an early age.

I was introduced to ACEs during a professional development program hosted by the Gila River Indian Community for teachers of students on the Reservation.  The topic was teaching with trauma sensitivity.

That day, I completed the ACEs Questionnaire (same as the one below).  My trauma score was nine (9).  As I attempted to mask my tears, I realized my mission.

Since becoming a teacher, I have naturally empathized with my students.  ACEs put it all in proper perspective – finally, I knew my WHY.  

I understood why:

  • my concern for my students runs deeper than academics
  • I relate to them at a deeper level that seems inexplicable
  • nothing else matters to me more than seeing others recover from the pain of their past
  • I relate to adults who appear to have many issues in a different more tolerable light
  • I can forgive my own past poor decisions and missed opportunities with seemingly unimaginable resiliency
  • years ago, the P3 Journey™ (Pain ~ Passion ~ Purpose) became my mission to share, which leads us to NOW!

STEP ONE – Determining Your ACEs Score

Complete this questionnaire from the perspective of prior to your 18th birthday:

  1. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Swear at you, insult you, put you down, or humiliate you? or Act in a way that made you afraid that you might be physically hurt?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  2. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often… Push, grab, slap, or throw something at you? or Ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  3. Did an adult or person at least 5 years older than you ever… Touch or fondle you or have you touch their body in a sexual way? or Attempt or actually have oral, anal, or vaginal intercourse with you?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  4. Did you often or very often feel that … No one in your family loved you or thought you were important or special? or Your family didn’t look out for each other, feel close to each other, or support each other?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  5. Did you often or very often feel that … You didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, and had no one to protect you? or Your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if you needed it?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  6. Were your parents ever separated or divorced?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  7. Was your mother or stepmother:
    Often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had something thrown at her? or Sometimes, often, or very often kicked, bitten, hit with a fist, or hit with something hard? or Ever repeatedly hit over at least a few minutes or threatened with a gun or knife?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  8. Did you live with anyone who was a problem drinker or alcoholic, or who used street drugs?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  9. Was a household member depressed or mentally ill, or did a household member attempt suicide?                        No___If Yes, enter 1 __
  10. Did a household member go to prison?
    No___If Yes, enter 1 __

Now add up your “Yes” answers: _ This is your ACE Score

Source: Got Your ACE Score?

I welcome thoughts and feelings – please share in comments!

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Focus on Consistency – #1 Introduction

Goal Setting, Mind, Motivation, Resilience, Spirit, Thriving

No matter what happens, my mind keeps coming back to what I feel most responsible to do.  That is – to make a difference in this world.  A positive difference!  I am grateful that it is my purpose to make a difference in this world.  No matter what I have experienced in my life, I have not abandoned the notion of my purpose.

Over the years, I have journeyed towards that destination.  I have traversed through many careers, met many acquaintances, suffered some hurts, developed some habits, and yet I refused to let go of purpose.

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There were times when I thought that I would never achieve it.  This morning it occurred to me that my lack of consistency in almost everything I do has a great deal to do with many of my setbacks over the years.

I made the excuse,”I am a child of chaos; therefore, I am most comfortable with it.  I dislike structure! I am free-flowing…blah, blah, blah!”

Once I became a teacher and responsible for creating STRUCTURE to facilitate a positive learning environment for my students, I realized that STRUCTURE isn’t a foe, but a friend.

I believe we teach best what we need to learn.  I also said I would allow my blog readers to hold me accountable.

Side note: Since I have been inconsistent in blogging, I only have a few readers.  I started blogging a few years ago, but was not consistent.  My excuses kept me from it.

Realization:  To achieve my purpose, I must be more consistent.  If I am to BE more consistent, I must have more STRUCTURE.

The journey towards consistency starts now…stay with me.

 

Dear every cancer patient I ever took care of, I’m sorry. I didn’t get it.

Mind, Motivation, Spirit

I share this for those who are “experiencing” cancer – peace and blessings.

Here Comes the Sun

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Dear every cancer patient I ever took care of, I’m sorry. I didn’t get it.

This thought has been weighing heavy on my heart since my diagnosis. I’ve worked in oncology nearly my entire adult life. I started rooming and scheduling patients, then worked as a nursing assistant through school, and finally as a nurse in both the inpatient and outpatient settings. I prided myself in connecting with my patients and helping them manage their cancer and everything that comes with it. I really thought I got it- I really thought I knew what it felt like to go through this journey. I didn’t.

I didn’t get what it felt like to actually hear the words. I’ve been in on countless diagnoses conversations and even had to give the news myself on plenty of occasions, but being the person the doctor is talking about is surreal. You were trying to…

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The Queen’s Voice…

Goal Setting, Mind, Motivation, Spirit, Uncategorized

During the program’s intermission, a friend came backstage.  She asked if I were nervous.  I don’t remember my response.  I do remember her telling me that she thought I may not win because my talent was ‘speaking’.  

I was competing against girls who danced, played instruments, and sang.  

The question at hand was, “Who speaks in a pageant as their talent?” 

She was genuinely concerned for me.  I simply smiled – because I was passionate about my subject matter and confident in my delivery.

My talent was a monologue relating to social injustice.  I still remember how it felt that night as the crown was placed upon my head and the cape draped around my shoulders. I imagine now it felt much like an American Idol finalist feels.

It was 1982, I was 16 and about to graduate from high school.   I was passionate about civil rights and social injustice.  As an avid reader, I was well aware of the tainted history dealing with race relations in this country.  My textbook heroes were Malcolm X, Martin Luther King, Mahatma Ghandi, and Marcus Garvey (I just realized the pattern of all first initials ‘M’).  

I believed I would one day make a difference in society like them.  They all had different ideologies and approaches (violence or nonviolence – this didn’t matter to me).  I just knew they walked in power and people followed.  They stood for something relevant and were willing to sacrifice their lives – that meant a great deal to me.

I was young and did not really understand everything that was going on politically, but I had courage and was willing to do whatever it took in defense of the marginalized in America.  I was gifted oratorically and I knew it by the way people responded when I spoke.  I had a voice – just like my heroes.

Well, time passed and through many life trials and poor choices – my voice faded.  I used it less and less.

Today, 30 years later, I am starting to use my voice again – especially in the Lyons Den (my middle school classroom).  I am engaging my students in meaningful dialogue about courage, resilience, persistence, trust, and the social and emotional issues that matter to them.  

I believe it is my responsibility to motivate and inspire youth to use their voices – future generations will depend on it.

 

 

It’s a good thing…

Kindness, Mind, Motivation, Spirit

I just saw this featured meme on Twitter and it made me think about my philosophy on meeting people. 

My husband and close friends have often commented about my inability to go places without talking to strangers (people in my midst).  Whether it is a grocery store, gas station, parking lot, etc., I am always game to smile and ready to engage. 

I find it invaluable to connect with people (not in a weird way).  I don’t want to paint the wrong picture…I am not chasing people down to talk to them.  That would be stalkerish and crazy.  Instead, I follow my inner spirit which guides my decisions on whether or not to engage.  I make eye contact, smile, and wait for the response before I jump to a conversation.  Often, others are engaging me.  I love it!

With each encounter (although a few moments of my schedule are compromised), I walk away better for it in some way.  I learn from people and hopefully they learn from me too.  It’s a good thing!

What do you think?  Do you agree or disagree?  

A2Z2016 – Us…

A to Z Challenge (2016), Mind, Motivation, Spirit

Not just YOU or I – but US!

So much comes between US!

  • politics
  • weight
  • dialect
  • sexual lifestyle/preferences
  • skin/eye/hair color
  • level of education
  • place of birth
  • religion
  • fitness level
  • neighborhood
  • income level

Unfortunately, if WE think about it, there is much more that WE could add to this list of what separates US in this world.  Yes, I know it’s a seemingly insurmountable task – yet I try everyday as an individual to overcome it.

If you look closely, there is so much more to to be said about US versus I or ME.

Peace and blessings,

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 4/18/16 – Dinner Brain Break Musings…

Education, Family, Goal Setting, Mind, Motivation, Time

My son’s high school graduation cap and gown arrived today. 

It just got real.

Need pictures and invitations – deadline fast approaching!

I’m not sure how to feel.

He’s getting older – I’m getting older.
I’m finishing my 3rd semester as a teaching intern.

It’s been rough

Brain-based Learning is a blast.

Phonics and syllabication  is tough!

As always, I’ll make it happen – for my students.

Therefore, I need to get back to work🦁.